The cycles of hot and cold may make you feel like the powerless one.
It appears as though as though your partner has all the strength.
Without realizing it, you've submitted to their need for emotional and psychological control. The pattern repeats itself for as long as you're willing to play this game.
The beautiful truth is that this has nothing to do with you. There's nothing you did, or didn't do, that's causing this.
But it's just the opposite -- real power is the ability to maintain intimacy. Power and strength of this caliber have no fear of being honest and direct.