But we should really only be matching with people we actually want to talk to – for me I find about 1 in every 10 men I match with on these kinds of sites will actually start a conversation.
Similarly, if you don’t want to meet up again, just make up an excuse.
I once had someone message me to say I wasn’t their cup of tea, which was quite a brutal message to receive. From the start I would advise only messaging people you’re genuinely interested in.
Those on paid sites tend to take their searches more seriously, whereas on many free dating apps like Tinder, people are more likely to match with people they may not be totally serious about.
It is also critical to not overstep your boundaries by offering parenting advice or the children will resent you for attempting to replace their mother.